I have now seen this post through Ed Stetzer and Christianity Today. I share this because I applaud Dan Cathy's (head of Chick-fil-a) response to the attacks on his company and himself personally by the LGBT movement for his stand against same-sex marriage. All Christians need to learn a lesson from this for how to deal with people who opposed their biblical values. I am a firm believer that this will draw more people to Christ than the rhetoric and demonstrations and cultural warfare tactics. He is truly trying to be "salt and light" as the Headline News interview with LGCBT activist Shane Windemeyer demonstrates. - Steve
FRIENDSHIP HEALS CHICK-FIL-A DIVIDE
Last summer controversy erupted when Dan Cathy, president and COO of
Chick-fil-A, gave an interview expressing his opposition to same sex
marriage based on biblical teachings. Gay rights activists also reacted
to the fast food company's financial support for organizations that
sought to block SSM.
In the weeks that followed, supporters of Chick-fil-A and traditional
marriage showed their solidarity by lining up at the restaurants for a
fried chicken sandwich, and members of the GLBT community rallied
protests to block the restaurants from entering some cities. The entire
episode highlighted the widening divide between conservative Christians
and the gay community, and few had hope that reconciliation was
possible.
What we did not know was that Dan Cathy, rather than fighting this
battle in the media, chose to pursue a more Christ-honoring way. He
reached out to Shane Windmeyer, the leader of Campus Pride--the pro-LGBT
organization that was leading the fight against Chick-fil-A. Cathy
developed a friendship with Shane and his husband, and a foundation of
mutual respect was created.
Earlier this week Windmeyer "came out" about his friendship with Cathy in a
column for Huffington Post
He writes:
Throughout the conversations Dan expressed a sincere
interest in my life, wanting to get to know me on a personal level. He
wanted to know about where I grew up, my faith, my family, even my
husband, Tommy. In return, I learned about his wife and kids and gained
an appreciation for his devout belief in Jesus Christ and his commitment
to being "a follower of Christ" more than a "Christian." Dan expressed
regret and genuine sadness when he heard of people being treated
unkindly in the name of Chick-fil-A -- but he offered no apologies for
his genuine beliefs about marriage.
Windmeyer continued:
In many ways, getting to know Dan better has reminded me of
my relationship with my uncle, who is a pastor at a Pentecostal church.
When I came out as openly gay in college, I was aware that his religious
views were not supportive of homosexuality. But my personal
relationship with my uncle reassured me of his love for me -- and that
love extends to my husband....
My relationship with Dan is the same, though he is not my family.
Dan, in his heart, is driven by his desire to minister to others and had
to choose to continue our relationship throughout this controversy. He
had to both hold to his beliefs and welcome me into them. He had to face
the issue of respecting my viewpoints and life even while not being
able to reconcile them with his belief system. He defined this to me as
"the blessing of growth." He expanded his world without abandoning it. I
did, as well.
In Cathy and Windmeyer we have a model of a Christian response to the
tensions between the church and LGBT community. Rather than fighting
battles in the courts, legislatures, and public square, we ought to
begin by loving our neighbors and establishing genuine friendships.
Throughout the conversations Dan expressed a sincere
interest in my life, wanting to get to know me on a personal level. He
wanted to know about where I grew up, my faith, my family, even my
husband, Tommy. In return, I learned about his wife and kids and gained
an appreciation for his devout belief in Jesus Christ and his commitment
to being "a follower of Christ" more than a "Christian." Dan expressed
regret and genuine sadness when he heard of people being treated
unkindly in the name of Chick-fil-A -- but he offered no apologies for
his genuine beliefs about marriage.
Windmeyer continued:
In many ways, getting to know Dan better has reminded me of
my relationship with my uncle, who is a pastor at a Pentecostal church.
When I came out as openly gay in college, I was aware that his religious
views were not supportive of homosexuality. But my personal
relationship with my uncle reassured me of his love for me -- and that
love extends to my husband....
My relationship with Dan is the same, though he is not my family.
Dan, in his heart, is driven by his desire to minister to others and had
to choose to continue our relationship throughout this controversy. He
had to both hold to his beliefs and welcome me into them. He had to face
the issue of respecting my viewpoints and life even while not being
able to reconcile them with his belief system. He defined this to me as
"the blessing of growth." He expanded his world without abandoning it. I
did, as well.
In Cathy and Windmeyer we have a model of a Christian response to the
tensions between the church and LGBT community. Rather than fighting
battles in the courts, legislatures, and public square, we ought to
begin by loving our neighbors and establishing genuine friendships.
For more on this story, here's an interview with Shane Windmeyer from Headline News: